Many couples practice nudism together. However, there are couples where one member is nudists but the other is reluctant (or outright hostile) to the idea.
Time and again, the best course of action has been to be honest and open about your desire to be a nudist. Over time, your partner will agree to your participation. You should never hide or lie about attending nudist events, and don’t ever ask a resort or club to “cover for you”. Not only is it rude, but no one wants to be involved in your lie to your significant other.
Don’t force the issue with your reluctant spouse or significant other. The worst thing you could do is to try to “persuade” him/her to join you. Remember that their reluctance is probably based on fear. Logic won’t work, so don’t try to argue them to a nudist event with you. It only pushes them farther away from accepting it and causes them to build up a wall against it.
Be available to answer questions and concerns without telling them they “should go with you to find out”. Answer their questions openly and honestly. Leave nudist magazines where they can peruse them when you are away and they can feel comfortable that you won’t see them and grill them about the subject. Over time, they will read the articles and see the pictures and become more comfortable with the idea.
At some point, probably to your great surprise, they will suggest they join you at a nudist dating. Realize this is them cracking the door open a tiny bit to try to understand it and experience it a little. Don’t take this as them throwing the door wide open for you to drag them into a full-fledged nudist lifestyle. You should be happy that they are willing to join you, but temper your enthusiasm.
Time and again, the three things that win over a reluctant significant other are honesty, patience, and understanding.
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